John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always
has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he
would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to
look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I
don't get it!
You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you
have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can
choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood."
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a
victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their
complaining or... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the
positive side of life.
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When
you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react
to situations. You choose how people affect your mood.
You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice
how you live your life."
I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left my job to start my own
business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice
about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling
some 60 feet from a communications tower.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the
hospital with rods placed in his back. I saw him about six months after the
accident.
When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any
better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind
as the accident took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was the
well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the
ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could
choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
He continued, "..the paramedics were great. They kept
telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I
saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared.
In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at
me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to
anything. 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they
waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'."
Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live.
Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
He lived, but also because of his amazing attitude... I learned from him that
every day we have the choice to live fully.
Attitude, after all, is everything. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for
tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
After all today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.